Most of us are affected by homosexuality in some way, even aside from the nonstop news and political noise. It’s personal. But how do we think about homosexuality as Christians? Some of us feel conflicted between what our friends believe, what our pastor is saying, and what the media is saying.
That’s why we thought it would be edifying to dedicate our most recent 20s Night to discussing homosexuality and Christianity with someone who has spent time and effort studying the topic. Allison J. Althoff, who wrote the popular feature for Christianity Today, Hope for the Gay Undergrad, came to facilitate a discussion about this potentially awkward topic.
We spent time discussing what the church is doing well, what the church is doing poorly, and what we can do to be part of the solution, instead of part of the problem.
Here are some take-away points from the discussion:
1) Gay = straight. No matter what your sexual orientation, God sees us all the same. Period. The second you think you are “superior” to someone who is attracted to members of the same sex is the second you need to go wash the plank out of your eye.2) Don’t develop canned responses. It’s okay to say “I don’t know” to someone’s questions about sexuality and Christianity. You can’t save anybody, and God will ultimately be the judge of their sins. All we’re called to do as believers is to intercede in prayer and love.3) Admit you yourself are a broken person. Be a doormat for others struggling by opening up first and telling people why you need Jesus. Your vulnerability and authenticity will inspire others to search and reveal their hearts as well.4) Admit your own ignorance and naivete. If you don’t know anything about homosexuality, don’t be afraid to admit it.5) Do not pity someone for their sexual orientation. “I’m so sorry you’re gay” won’t score you points with anyone.